Look in, Not up

Last updated on March 24, 2026

Dear Younger me,

I see your pain.

I see you seeking answers.

I see you trying so hard. I know it feels like it’s in vain.

And in this moment, with this person, it is vain.

A waste of time.

The answers you seek are out of your reach because you are looking in the wrong direction.

You are looking up when you should be looking in.

You think this is your ‘lot,’ your sacrifice — that God demands this suffering from you.

But truth be told, it is not.

You have been carrying a burden that was never yours to carry.

You do not have to wait for answers; the answers are so plain.

Right in front of you.

But first, you must understand that you are of Great Value.

You are worthy of pure, honest, unconditional, safe love.

You deserve it.

You deserve better than this.

You don’t have to stay in an abusive situation; your kids deserve better.

“God,” whom you seek, will take care of you.

He loves you and does not want you to suffer.

But more than that, you need to love yourself enough to walk away.

You need to see yourself the way He sees you: as worthy of protection, not as someone meant to endure pain.

You deserve a partner who chooses gentleness, not someone whose love is based on broken promises.

He doesn’t expect you to stay.

And neither should you.

He wants you to defend yourself and your children.

During this time in your life, remember who you are and where you came from.

You’re a strong, independent, self-supporting, ambitious, beautiful woman.

Many men desire you.

You didn’t have to “settle”.

You will overcome.

You will be victorious.

This is not what God promised.

Because you aren’t pursuing the promise.

What did he promise?

Wealth and happiness!

Yes!

Go for it.

Go after the promise.

You will survive.

You will rise up victoriously with fire in your veins, unapologetically free, a Victorious Phoenix Goddess.

Sincerely,

Wiser Me